The birthday boy ate cake when instructed, cried when people sang, and didn't pay much attention to the gifts his mother helped him open. He was more interested in playing push car outside with his cousins.Read More
We were down to one bottle in the house. I thought Ben might be able to taper off bottles and night feedings. "It's for emergencies," I told myself. I told everybody and, bless them, nobody had the heart to tell me it was a terrible idea. I thought having an emergency "tantrum-stopping" bottle on hand was a good idea.Read More
intention of writing Ben letters from time to time, with the hope that he would someday read them when he's older and be able to understand his mother for the person she was, both before he was born and when he was too young to form lasting memories. As we approach Ben's second birthday, I have written three of these letters. I keep forgetting he has an email address.
I keep forgetting a lot of things.Read More
My 20s were spent moving around, for one reason or another, and refusing to put down roots. Before always-on GPS, before the social media boom. If my parents hadn't heard from me in a day or two they had to send my sister and her friends to hunt me down. Case in point: my phone died and I just didn't charge it one weekend. It was nice to not deal with text messages or phone calls. So my sister -- four friends in tow -- showed up at my apartment at 11:00 PM one night saying "Hey, call Dad."Read More
My kid has a problem. He can't give it up for anything. The only comfort he finds these days is at the bottom of a bottle. He won't take the damn Elmo doll, blanket, t-shirt, or pacifier. He can (and does) use straws and open cups with surprising ease. But oh, the bottle! His dear. His beloved. I, most embarrassingly, am his enabler. Poor Quinn, who only occasionally reminds me how much I'm not helping when I give in to a bottle tantrum, has more discipline in this area -- which admittedly kind of irks me.Read More
There’s no universal standard for sleep requirements. Science says, generally, that 8 hours (give or take, of course) is what you should shoot for. Science also says that we should sleep in split shifts, like our ancestors may or may not have. Science also also says that sleep is a construct and we're all of us always asleep because we're actually all plugged into simulations, kind of like in The Matrix.Read More