"When are you going to give him a sibling?" a complete stranger asks. It's maybe the dozenth time I've been asked this question. When someone offers to be my pro-bono, full-time nanny, I think.
There's a kind of unspoken expectation in America to have multiple children. Only children, or kids who don't grow up with a sibling in the home, are seen as self-absorbed, maladjusted, unhappy loners lacking in social skills. I have an issue with the way these assumed behaviors are referred to -- only child syndrome -- and how it suggests that being without siblings is a disorder of some kind: all children that grow up without a brother or sister are subject to this same set of negative stereotypes, with little or no regard for the environmental factors that influence characteristics like adaptability, agreeableness, empathy, and resiliency.Read More